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<title type="text">UltraNormal</title>
<subtitle type="text">Hi, I&apos;m Kevin.  I&apos;m a software engineer and standards evangelist at AOL.  I&apos;m married in my early thirties, fat and happy.  What&apos;s this all about?  This is my hobby.  It&apos;s not my job.  My job is what I do at work.  This is what I do when I&apos;m not working or doing something else.  So, it&apos;s a little behind the blogging world&apos;s bleeding edge, and I&apos;ve come to terms with that.  I hope you can too.   My wife, Jen, blogs here too.</subtitle>
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<title type="text">Let&apos;s talk about something upbeat and happy, yes?</title>
<summary type="text">Um, I don't have anything right now. Check back with me in a little bit. In the meantime... Violent rhetoric...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Um, I don't have anything right now. Check back with me in a little bit. In the meantime...<br />
<u><br />
Violent rhetoric against Obama is the new campaign strategy of the McCain/Palin ticket</u></p>

<blockquote><p>"It's a dangerous road, but we have no choice," a top McCain strategist recently admitted to the Daily News.  "If we keep talking about the economic crisis, we're going to lose." </p></blockquote>

<blockquote><p>The 'dangerous road,' however, is not just a generic attack on Sen. Obama's trustworthiness or honesty.  Rather, the McCain campaign has chosen to stand before campaign rallies and accuse Sen. Obama of hiding sympathies with domestic terrorists--to accuse their opponent, essentially, of being a terrorist. <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jeffrey-feldman/is-palin-trying-to-incite_b_132534.html">Source.</a></p></blockquote>

<p><span class="caps">ETA</span>- Meh, I can't get the code to come out right, so whatever. This will have to do. </p>]]></content>
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<entry>
<title type="text">Max&apos;s Birthday at the Oatland Wildlife Center</title>
<summary type="text"> Today is Max's 9th birthday. To celebrate, I took the boys to the Oatland Wildlife Center to see some...</summary>
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<p>Today is Max's 9th birthday.  To celebrate, I took the boys to the <a href="http://www.oatlandisland.org">Oatland Wildlife Center</a> to see some alligators and other wildlife.  Little did I realize that it was a two mile hike around the center to see everything.  And we did the <em>whole</em> thing.  I, of course, took pictures which <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/kplawver/sets/72157607739099926/">are up on flickr if you want to go see the rest of them</a>.</p>

<p>And just because it's maybe my all-time favorite of Brian, here's a bonus pic!</p>

<p class="photo"><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/kplawver/2913785628/in/set-72157607739099926/"><img src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3126/2913785628_88bb894725.jpg?v=0" alt="Brian wants more food for the fish."/></a></p>]]></content>
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<entry>
<title type="text">One of these things is not like the other</title>
<summary type="text">Linky Dinky Doo: Click here....</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Linky Dinky Doo: <a href="http://indigorobe.blogspot.com/2008/10/ill-stop-sarah-palin-posts-when-she.html">Click here</a>.</p>]]></content>
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<updated>2008-10-03T13:10:50Z</updated>
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<name>Jen</name>
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<entry>
<title type="text">Good Gnews from Gary Gnu. </title>
<summary type="text">1. The broken pipe isn't actually going into the house in Va, so yay! They won't have to tear up...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>1. The broken pipe isn't actually going into the house in Va, so yay! They won't have to tear up the house to fix the problem. This means the estimate was a lot higher than the actual bill will be. Phew. "Tonight we eat like the lower middle class to which we aspire." </p>

<p>2. Speaking of food, our grocery store finally got in some decent-looking strawberries. I don't think I have seen any since we've moved here. They're usually bruised and old looking, ewww. Even though these ones were more expensive than usual I bought them, because- yum- strawberries! Double, yay. Max then ate them <span class="caps">ALL </span>at breakfast the following day. I guess he was missing out on the strawberries too. </p>

<p>3. The house we're renting is for sale (as you long-time readers will know), making our situation here unstable. But! There have already been a couple of offers from people wanting to keep us as tenants, so triple yay. I am guessing at this point that the bank would rather take one of these bids than foreclose, but I don't actually know the dollar amounts involved, so homelessness is still a possibility. </p>

<p>4. Every once in a long while, Kevin will be sort of grumpy for a few days, only I won't really notice it until he is suddenly in a good mood. Well, the same thing happened to me!  After being a complete cranky-queen on wheels for the last month, I surprised myself by singing along to a commercial on the tv. (Me being in a bad mood isn't all that unusual, just that I was surprised to find myself not in one.)</p>

<p>5. In a <span class="caps">PMS</span>-fueled rage, I cleaned the house last night and it was awesome. I couldn't sit still long enough to fold laundry, but I did scrub and mop and sweep and wipe, etc, etc. I guess <span class="caps">PMS </span>is good for something. Then I sacked out on the couch with the brownies I had made earlier in the day and watched some bad tv. What's up with this lame season? (Oh wait, this is an all good gnews post, so never mind about that.)</p>

<p>6. I have been a member of the <span class="caps">LDS</span> Church my entire adult life and almost half of my total life. It has been great, fulfilling, enlightening, fun, and has helped me grow spiritually, emotionally, and socially. I have had some of the most amazing experiences that are directly linked to the church and the gospel. I am forever grateful for the opportunity I had to meet Kevin, marry him in the <span class="caps">LDS</span> Temple, and become part of the Lawver family. </p>

<p>While I disagree with the church's support of Prop 8, I don't have bad feelings for the church, the leaders, or its members. I have not written ill of the church, except to express my disagreement on this one issue, and don't plan on it.</p>

<p>So, there is this guy who started a website and wrote a really rational petition to the leaders of the church from members asking for the withdrawal of the church's support of Prop 8. As for how he went about getting his message out there? I in no way sanction that or anything else about him. All I know is that I agree with the petition, believe that gays should have equal rights to marriage, adoption, government benefits, et al. </p>]]></content>
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<entry>
<title type="text">How&apos;d I Do On &quot;The Omnivore Hundred&quot;</title>
<summary type="text">A challenge is afoot! Very Good Taste created a list called the Omnivore Hundred and challenged people to post it...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>A challenge is afoot!  <a href="http://www.verygoodtaste.co.uk/uncategorised/the-omnivores-hundred/">Very Good Taste created a list called the Omnivore Hundred</a> and challenged people to post it to their blogs and bold the things they've eaten.  So, here's mine, most of them with commentary and I linked to the Wikipedia entries for the ones I'd never heard of:</p>


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<li><strong>Venison</strong></li>
<li>Nettle tea</li>
<li><strong>Huevos rancheros</strong> - Many many times. I used to stop at Filiberto's in Tucson on the way to work a couple times a week and get either huevos rancheros or a breakfast burrito.</li>
<li>Steak tartare</li>
<li><strong>Crocodile</strong> - I had alligator sausage in Charleston, <span class="caps">SC, </span>so I'm counting this one.</li>
<li><strong>Black pudding</strong> - A couple times in Dublin. I prefer white pudding with fried eggs.  Not a huge fan of black pudding.</li>
<li><strong>Cheese fondue</strong></li>
<li>Carp</li>
<li><strong>Borscht</strong> - My friend Becky had a Russian dinner after she got back from her <span class="caps">LDS </span>mission and we had borscht with sour cream. It was good.</li>
<li><strong>Baba ghanoush</strong> - Not a huge fan of eggplant, so this probably won't be a repeat.</li>
<li><strong>Calamari</strong></li>
<li><strong>Pho</strong> - Yesterday for lunch.</li>
<li><strong><span class="caps">PB&amp;J </span>sandwich</strong></li>
<li><strong>Aloo gobi</strong> - In Bangalore and at a buffet in Herndon.</li>
<li><strong>Hot dog from a street cart</strong></li>
<li><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki">Epoisses</a>/Époisses_de_Bourgogne_(cheese)</li>
<li><strong>Black truffle</strong> - Not all by itself, but I've had several sauces with black truffle in them.</li>
<li><del>Fruit wine made from something other than grapes</del></li>
<li><strong>Steamed pork buns</strong> - Thanks to <a href="http://cindyli.com">Cindy Li</a> and Dim Sum Sundays!</li>
<li><strong>Pistachio ice cream</strong></li>
<li><strong>Heirloom tomatoes</strong> - Several times from <a href="http://greatcountryfarms.com">Great Country Farms</a> and other places.</li>
<li><strong>Fresh wild berries</strong> - We used to pick our own on the side of the road when we lived in North and South Carolina.</li>
<li><strong>Foie gras</strong> - Oh yes. At my favorite restaurant in the entire world in the South of France, <a href="http://www.ermitage-du-riou.fr/english/index.htm"><span class="caps">L'H</span>ermitage du Riou</a></li>
<li><strong>Rice and beans</strong></li>
<li>Brawn, or head cheese</li>
<li>Raw Scotch Bonnet pepper</li>
<li><strong>Dulce de leche</strong></li>
<li><strong>Oysters</strong> - Yes, hated them, and now with my shellfish allergy, no more.</li>
<li><strong>Baklava</strong></li>
<li><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bagna_cauda">Bagna cauda</a></li>
<li>Wasabi peas</li>
<li><del>Clam chowder in a sourdough bowl</del> - Again, with the shellfish allergy, not going to happen</li>
<li><strong>Salted lassi</strong> - I love mango lassis from Shalimar, in Mountain View, <span class="caps">CA.</span> I'm not sure if that counts.  I had a weird cucumber one, that I hated, so I'm assuming that was salted.</li>
<li><strong>Sauerkraut</strong></li>
<li><strong>Root beer float</strong></li>
<li><del>Cognac with a fat cigar</del> - Don't drink or smoke.</li>
<li>Clotted cream tea</li>
<li><del>Vodka jelly/Jell-O</del></li>
<li><strong>Gumbo</strong> - In New Orleans even, but again, stupid shellfish allergy, I can't eat it again.</li>
<li><strong>Oxtail</strong> - In Germany as a kid.  One of the strongest tastes I've ever experienced, I can still remember it twenty-something years later.</li>
<li>Curried goat</li>
<li>Whole insects</li>
<li>Phaal</li>
<li>Goat's milk</li>
<li><del>Malt whisky from a bottle worth £60/$120 or more</del></li>
<li>Fugu</li>
<li><strong>Chicken tikka masala</strong> - Once in India even, but I prefer Butter Chicken.</li>
<li><strong>Eel</strong> - as sushi, not a huge fan, but I'd try other kinds of someone served it.</li>
<li><strong>Krispy Kreme original glazed doughnut</strong></li>
<li><strong>Sea urchin</strong></li>
<li>Prickly pear</li>
<li><strong>Umeboshi</strong></li>
<li><strong>Abalone</strong></li>
<li><strong>Paneer</strong> - At least three or four different kinds.</li>
<li><strong>McDonald's Big Mac Meal</strong> - I used to get them occasionally as a kid, but I don't like the sauce anymore, and since watching <strong>Super-Size Me</strong>, I rarely eat fast food.</li>
<li><strong>Spaetzle</strong></li>
<li><del>Dirty gin martini</del></li>
<li><del>Beer above 8% <span class="caps">ABV</span></del></li>
<li>Poutine - No, but after hearing my brother describe it, I want to!</li>
<li><strong>Carob chips</strong> - Mom used to "secretly" replace the chocolate chips in cookies with carob chips. We always knew.</li>
<li><strong>S'mores</strong></li>
<li><strong>Sweetbreads</strong> - In Paris at an <em>amazing</em> dinner with <a href="http://glazou.org">Daniel Glazman</a>, Jen and his wife.  Amazing.</li>
<li>Kaolin - The only mention I can find of Kaolin is a clay or Kaopectate. If it's Kaopectate, you betcha I've had it.</li>
<li>Currywurst</li>
<li>Durian</li>
<li><strong>Frogs' legs</strong> - Max and I tried them at our favorite Vietnamese restaurant in Sterling.  He liked them.  They were <span class="caps">OK.</span></li>
<li><strong>Beignets, churros, elephant ears or funnel cake</strong> - All four!</li>
<li><strong>Haggis</strong> - In Edinburgh with <a href="http://arunranga.com">Arun</a> and a whole host of awesome <a href="http://w3.org"><span class="caps">W3C</span></a> people. One of my all-time favorite dinners.  The haggis was actually pretty good too.</li>
<li>Fried plantain</li>
<li>Chitterlings, or andouillette</li>
<li><strong>Gazpacho</strong></li>
<li>Caviar and blini</li>
<li><del>Louche absinthe</del></li>
<li>Gjetost, or brunost</li>
<li>Roadkill - Not that I know of... but I have lived in the Deep South, so who knows.</li>
<li><del>Baijiu</del></li>
<li><strong>Hostess Fruit Pie</strong> - Not in years, but I remember going through a phase where I <em>loved</em> the cherry ones.</li>
<li><strong>Snail</strong> - Several times, once in France.</li>
<li>Lapsang souchong</li>
<li><del>Bellini</del></li>
<li><strong>Tom yum</strong> - I've had it at least once, but can't think of where at the moment.</li>
<li><strong>Eggs Benedict</strong> - Jen gets this whenever she can when we go out for breakfast. I know we both ate it at least once on our honeymoon.</li>
<li><strong>Pocky</strong> - My <a href="http://heathershow.com">sister</a> introduced me to this one.</li>
<li><strong>Tasting menu at a three-Michelin-star restaurant</strong> - I don't know how many stars <span class="caps">L'H</span>ermitage du Riou has, but I've eaten there at least 8 times so I'm counting that.</li>
<li><strong>Kobe beef</strong> - At the Microsoft cafeteria in Mountain View during a <span class="caps">CSS</span> Working Group meeting as a hamburger.  One of the best burgers I've ever had.</li>
<li><strong>Hare</strong> - At <span class="caps">L'H</span>ermitage du Riou - baby hare wrapped in bacon - the <em>best</em> meal I've ever had.</li>
<li><strong>Goulash</strong></li>
<li><strong>Flowers</strong> - My brother and I ate dandelions once, and I know I've had edible flowers before.</li>
<li>Horse</li>
<li>Criollo chocolate</li>
<li><strong>Spam</strong></li>
<li><strong>Soft shell crab</strong> - But not anymore... <em>sigh</em></li>
<li>Rose harissa</li>
<li><strong>Catfish</strong> - All over the South, fried in filets, on a sandwich, as nuggets.   You name it, I've had it.</li>
<li><strong>Mole poblano</strong></li>
<li><strong>Bagel and lox</strong></li>
<li>Lobster Thermidor</li>
<li><strong>Polenta</strong></li>
<li>Jamaican Blue Mountain coffee</li>
<li>Snake</li>
</ol>



<p>Of the hundred, there are a few I won't do because they involve smoking or drinking, but I've tried 59 of the hundred, which isn't too bad.</p>

<p>Things I'd add to the list:</p>


<ol>
<li><strong>Ankimo</strong> - Monkfish liver, introduced by Alex Mogilevsky at a <span class="caps">CSS</span> Working Group dinner at my favorite sushi restaurant, <strong>Satsuma</strong>, in Mountain View.  When it's good, it tastes a lot like foie gras. Ask for it at your favorite sushi place.  It's rarely on the menu, even if they have it!</li>
<li>Pylsurs - <a href="http://consolationchamps.com">James McNally</a> reminded my of them with <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/jmcnally/2897436281/">one of his Iceland pics</a>.  We used to get them whenever we went to town when we lived in Iceland. Lamb hot dogs... yum.</li>
<li>Club Orange - The <em>best</em> orange soda, hell, just best soda, on the planet.  Like Orangina but with <em>real</em> flavor.  You can get it imported from <a href="http://www.foodireland.com">Food Ireland</a> or just go to Dublin.</li>
<li>Fanta Grape - The European version with real sugar.</li>
<li>Sarsaparilla - Birch Beer would work too.</li>
</ol>



<p>So, how'd <em>you</em> do? </p>]]></content>
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<entry>
<title type="text">I just spent $80 filling up my gas tank</title>
<summary type="text">More from me- I get that the LDS church wants to silence dissents, but this guy isn't speaking out about...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>More from me-</p>

<p>I get that the <span class="caps">LDS </span>church wants to silence dissents, but this guy isn't speaking out about church doctrine. The petition states: <strong>We affirm the <span class="caps">LDS</span> Church's right to define doctrine and policy for its own members.</strong> So, let the church proclaim all it wants about whatever. Let the church dictate the actions of its members, bestowing religious privileges only upon whom they see fit. But when it comes to denying <em>civil rights</em> to others? I just can't support that all. Doctrine and Covenants 134:9 states, "We do not believe it just to mingle religious influence with civil government..." So, yea. There ya go.</p>

<p>See the petition here: <a href="http://signingforsomething.org/blog/?page_id=267">Signing for Something</a>.</p>]]></content>
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<entry>
<title type="text">Bleebleeblahblahboo</title>
<summary type="text">I am vehemently against Prop 8 on California's ballot in November. Ok, Church, do to me what you will. ETA-...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I am vehemently against <a href="http://ballotpedia.org/wiki/index.php?title=California_Proposition_8_(2008)">Prop 8</a> on California's ballot in November. </p>

<p>Ok, Church, <a href="http://www.abc4.com/mostpopular/story.aspx?content_id=FEEE2BE8-BD9C-4314-88BF-E2E60AE2BCA4">do to me what you will</a>. </p>

<p><I><span class="caps">ETA</span>- Kevin's post beat mine by 6 minutes! I knew I shouldn't have wasted time with a potty break!</i></p>]]></content>
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<name>Jen</name>
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<email>jclawver@aol.com</email>
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<entry>
<title type="text">Not Again... Love Thy Neighbor</title>
<summary type="text">Here we go again. My Church has come out again and said two different things, and it's driving me crazy....</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Here we go again.  My Church has come out again and said two different things, and it's driving me crazy.  On the one hand, the <a href="http://newsroom.lds.org/ldsnewsroom/eng/news-releases-stories/first-presidency-issues-letter-on-political-participation">church released a statement saying that the church is neutral in political elections but encourages members to participate in the process</a>.  On the other, they come out in favor of <a href="http://newsroom.lds.org/ldsnewsroom/eng/commentary/california-and-same-sex-marriage">bigoted legislation that narrowly defines marriage</a> in order to exclude other people from the legal rights we enjoy.</p>

<p>Why?  What's the point?  Just like in 2006 when the constitutional amendment was in front of the US Senate, this is an election year ploy meant to drive evangelicals to the polls to hate on some gay people.  That's all.  There's nothing moral or ethical about it.  It's hateful election year tricks meant to build up people by tearing others down.</p>

<p>I can't stand it.  We didn't go to church for almost <em>two years</em> after the last time a letter like that was read from the pulpit, and now <a href="http://www.abc4.com/mostpopular/story.aspx?content_id=FEEE2BE8-BD9C-4314-88BF-E2E60AE2BCA4">people are being threatened with excommunication for being against Prop 8</a>.  Why does this have to come back up now just when we're going back to Church and although I adamantly don't agree with the Church's position, we're attending again.</p>

<p>So, if this gets me excommunicated for thinking for myself, fine.  I'm all for gay marriage.  It has not effect on <em>my</em> marriage.  I don't think homosexuality is a choice.  I don't think we, as Christians, should be persecuting anyone for things <em>they can not change about themselves</em> or judge them.  I know enough gay and lesbian couples to know that they love each other in the truest sense of the word and denying that love, pretending it doesn't exist because it doesn't fit into our small definition of it is <em>wrong</em> and un-Christlike.</p>

<p>It was only a hundred years ago that Mormons were persecuted for our unpopular ideas about marriage.  For us, even after all these years, to persecute others (and make no mistake, that's <em>exactly</em> what's going on) is hypocrisy plain and simple.  It's hate, bigotry and the worst part of ourselves, and I'll have no part of it.</p>

<blockquote><p>Thus did Alma teach his people, that every man should love his neighbor as himself, that there should be no contention among them. -- <a href="http://scriptures.lds.org/en/mosiah/23/15#15">Mosiah 23:15</a></p></blockquote>

<p>Marginalizing people is <em>not</em> love.  It's <strong>contention</strong> for political ends, a cheap trick to rile people up and get them to the polls - nothing more.</p>

<p><strong>Update</strong>: I've been thinking about this pretty much all last night and this morning, and a single phrase keeps coming back to me from <strong>The Declaration of Independence</strong> (emphasis mine):</p>

<blockquote><p>We hold these truths to be <em>self-evident</em>, that <em>all</em> men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the <em>pursuit of Happiness</em>.</p></blockquote>

<p>Throughout our history, we've not done a very good job of living up to the ideals laid down in our founding document (the one that kicked off our struggle for independence). Whether it was slavery, segregation, women's rights, internment or meddling in other countries' affairs, we've obviously still got some work to do to fulfill those ideals. I can't stomach the idea that we'd take a step backwards by denying our fellow citizens' "pursuit of happiness" and liberty just because we don't agree with it.  The divorce rate is over 50% and has been for years.  It seems we have some work to do on our own marriages (one might say we have a "beam in our eye") before we go meddling with others'. I don't know why people think this will "save" marriage.  If we spent as much time worrying about our own marriages as we did about denying the rights of others to marry, we'd probably all be a lot happier. </p>

<p>And that's what this is about for me - happiness. I can't judge someone else and deny them their pursuit of happiness. Gay couples being allowed to marry doesn't infringe on my rights or anyone else's. It doesn't somehow degrade my marriage - only I can do that.  It doesn't make me any less married or any less in love with my wife. It brings happiness to the world and to the people who are finally able to enter into that covenant with the person they love, and I'm all for it.  Mazel tov.</p>]]></content>
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<title type="text">Life</title>
<summary type="text">Kevin and I are getting over the worst, longest-lasting stomach flu ever. At one point, Kevin looked like a zombie....</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Kevin and I are getting over the worst, longest-lasting stomach flu ever. At one point, Kevin looked like a zombie. We hung out on the couch and let the kids eat pop tarts and pretzels for breakfast. It's the most together time we've had in years. </p>

<p>I found $15 on my dresser today. <span class="caps">YAY,</span> I am rich. Which is awesome because I need to pay a $6,000 bill for a broken pipe at the Virginia house. So, yea, not so rich. We're bleeding money and have nothing awesome or fun to show for it. </p>

<p>Max was kicked out of the gifted program at school. Apparently the state requires kids be tested in Ga before they can be part of the program. Why the teachers or the administrators didn't know this before he started is beyond me. The testing will happen next month but then it will take another three months to have the results analyzed. He can go back into the program, assuming he "passes," after that. </p>

<p>That has been our month, which isn't even the worst of it. So, I am going to go back into my hole and only come out for laundry, dinner, and new episodes of <strong>How I Met Your Mother</strong>. Be good, internets.  </p>]]></content>
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<email>jclawver@aol.com</email>
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<title type="text">Holy hannah</title>
<summary type="text">We finally have a renter for our Virginia townhouse. YAY. The year-long lease is a sucky thing though, because if...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>We finally have a renter for our Virginia townhouse. <span class="caps">YAY.</span> The year-long lease is a sucky thing though, because if they move next year, we'll be stuck trying to rent or sell it in the sucky fall market. But for now, <span class="caps">YAY</span>!</p>]]></content>
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<published>2008-09-19T18:06:41Z</published>
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<name>Jen</name>
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<email>jclawver@aol.com</email>
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<title type="text">Georgia is for peanut farmers?</title>
<summary type="text">Life in Georgia is getting harder. What's up with that? Ugh....</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Life in Georgia is getting harder. What's up with that? Ugh.</p>]]></content>
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<updated>2008-09-16T17:30:20Z</updated>
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<name>Jen</name>
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<entry>
<title type="text">Stinky, stinky diaper change, boy my brother smells so strange</title>
<summary type="text">Chez Lawver has had the crappiest week ever. I would sort of request a do-over but I do not want...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Chez Lawver has had the crappiest week ever. I would sort of request a do-over but I do not want to relive it. Instead, I am requesting a fast-forward to... Thanksgiving vacation, ok? OK! So, someone make it so.</p>]]></content>
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<published>2008-09-13T15:29:07Z</published>
<updated>2008-09-13T15:34:04Z</updated>
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<entry>
<title type="text">Not What I Planned for This Weekend</title>
<summary type="text">Max was sick earlier this week, and now Brian is too. They both have some gastrointestinal explosiveness disorder that means...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>Max was sick earlier this week, and now Brian is too.  They both have some gastrointestinal explosiveness disorder that means Jen was up and down most of the night with them, we need to do laundry and we'll be fueling both kids with Pepto&copy;, kaopectate&trade;, Sprite&copy; and dry toast all weekend.</p>

<p>I just got home from an early-morning grocery store run to stock up on those things, plus caffeine to keep me awake.  </p>

<p>We were going to have so much fun this weekend... Now I'm off to do the dishes and start some laundry.</p>]]></content>
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<published>2008-09-13T11:23:11Z</published>
<updated>2008-09-13T11:28:04Z</updated>
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<name>Kevin Lawver</name>
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<entry>
<title type="text">The ugliness of the GOP</title>
<summary type="text">This is so outlandish, the world needs a new word to describe the fuckery going on here. A new attack...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>This is so outlandish, the world needs a new word to describe the fuckery going on here. A new attack ad that John McCain released is so disgustingly twisted, I'm just left stunned by his lack of honor in campaigning and his penchant for distorting the facts.</p>

<p><u>Here's some backstory to preface:</u> while in Illinois, Barack Obama supported legislation that basically advocated providing K-12 students with age appropriate sex ed (I had sex ed in school, who didn't?) For the young children, it would be about the difference between a "good touch" and "bad touch" - it was meant to protect children from child molesters! But yesterday, John McCain put out this ad entitled "Education"-<br />
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<p>They use a smiling image of Obama under a voiceover implying the man wants to teach inappropriate sex ed to kindergarteners? That is <span class="caps">SICK.</span> We can debate the merits of educating kids in public schools about pedophiles, but to pretend that wasn't the aim of the legislation to begin with, is disgraceful. (eta- except no, we can't debate the merits of protecting kids against pedophiles. This is the most heinous crime ever and our kids really need as much protection as possible.) But even worse, <b>did you know some of those articles cited within the McCain ad either go on to criticize McCain's own education plans, or even compliment Obama's</b>? Yep.</p>

<p><u>Obama's campaign released a statement:</u> <br />
"It is shameful and downright perverse for the McCain campaign to use a bill that was written to protect young children from sexual predators as a recycled and discredited political attack against a father of two young girls - a position that his friend Mitt Romney also holds. Last week, John McCain told Time magazine he couldn't define what honor was. Now we know why." ~ Obama spokesman Bill Burton in an emailed statement.</p>

<p>Oh, but let's not stop there. McCain released a new ad today accusing Obama of sexism against Palin because he used that old saying, "you can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig..." when describing McCain/Palin policies. But guess what? McCain used that <span class="caps">SAME PHRASE </span>this year to describe Hillary Clinton's health care plan- <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BR8IhMMhe8w&amp;eurl=http://lj-toys.com/?journalid=8135991&amp;moduleid=29&amp;preview=&amp;auth_token=sessionless:1221058800:embedcontentiurl=http://i3.ytimg.com/vi/BR8IhMMhe8w/default.jpg">Click for video</a>.</p>

<p>Am I to understand it's OK for McCain to use that phrase? Was he calling Hillary a pig? This is utterly ridiculous.</p>

<p>Obama's campaign has not released <span class="caps">ONE </span>ad that stoops to these sorts of distortions. Not <span class="caps">ONE.</span> Check out Obama's YouTube profile, his ads are usually in response to some attack ad of McCain's, OR they talk about substantive issues. Now, check out McCain's YouTube profile. It is jam packed with attack ads aimed at Obama.</p>

<p>After the attacks John McCain suffered against George Bush back in 2000, <span class="caps">WHY </span>is he doing this now? He's no maverick. He's doing exactly what George W. Bush did, so I can only conclude a McCain administration would be exactly the same too. He talks about honor and country first, but these sorts of distortions don't benefit America. They benefit him.</p>

<p>I was horrified by what McCain suffered in 2000 and am equally horrifed now. McCain used to be a man of honor and deserving of respect. I am appalled by the changes in him as he tries for the White House. Political opinions aside, this is not the type of person to be the president.</p>]]></content>
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<entry>
<title type="text">International Day Of...</title>
<summary type="text">I sent out a calendar entry for International Talk Like a Pirate Day at work this morning. Why? Because I...</summary>
<content type="html"><![CDATA[<p>I sent out a calendar entry for <a href="http://www.talklikeapirate.com/piratehome.html">International Talk Like a Pirate Day</a> at work this morning.  Why?  Because I can.  I'm management now, I can do whatever I want, right?  Anyway, here's a short exchange I had with one of my co-workers in e-mail:</p>


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<li>N: I can't wait for <strong>International Caps Lock Day</strong></li>
<li>Me: <span class="caps">WHEN</span> IS <span class="caps">THAT</span>?! IS IT <span class="caps">TODAY</span>?!</li>
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<p>I'm a funny guy.  As soon as I hit send, I felt bad that I left out <strong><span class="caps">OMFG</span>!!</strong> at the beginning. That would have made it even better.</p>]]></content>
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<updated>2008-09-08T15:15:19Z</updated>
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